I bet endless girls go through this. I know everyone’s life is complex and it’s hard to figure out your path and what you want to do…but I get frustrated thinking about how bad I was made to feel because I fell out of love with someone who couldn’t get their life together when they were much older than me. I’m sure every day older guys with no ambition and no goals make their younger girlfriends feel like they’re letting them down when they don’t stand by them. Younger girls shouldn’t have to carry a guy along with them, they should be finding themselves and figuring out what they want to do and be free from guilt. I’m being sexist and generalizing I know…but that is what I experienced and I haven’t come across many examples of an older woman treating a younger partner that way. Maybe it’s a mothering/nurturing instinct that kicks in. I just hate that whole idea of a guy being like “Why would I let you know I’m a loser at the beginning?” They’d rather hook you in so that you love them and don’t want to leave them. They hide the fact that they have no drive, they seem passionate because they pour all of their energy into their girlfriend, who is probably new to so much attention. It’s so needy and selfish. It’s always like a “I’m a fuck-up, I know, I’m sorry” kind of response from them. And it’s so easy for them to impress someone younger. They seem like this cool, relaxed, aloof older guy. Until you realize they’re a child and they’re sucking the life out of you.